about jake
I offer education from a psychological and sociological perspective to help you rise above the harmful conditioning in our society so you can connect meaningfully with others to help create a kinder, more caring world. This is a safe space for you to explore and understand your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Together, we will work towards your personal growth and well-being.

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I make high-level concepts accessible to the everyday person so they can create change in their life and community
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My therapeutic work, such as my book, workbook, and upcoming marriage prep course, helps people experience more joy and connection and less strife in their relationships
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My sociological work, primarily my podcast, helps people understand that our society isn't bad by accident but by design and how you can decolonize your worldview to create meaningful change

HIGH-LEVEL COACHING
Do any of the following describe you?
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You're working your hardest but just can't seem to go next-level
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You have negative self-talk and struggle to feel good about yourself
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You're contemplating a big change and need some guidance
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You want support in becoming the best version of yourself
If so, I may be the right coach for you! I've pushed myself, personally and professionally, every day for the past decade and have made myself someone I'm incredibly proud of. I have accomplished many long-term goals and set new ones that are WAY bigger than anything I could've imagined before. I know what it takes to do the inner and outer work involved in evolving and achieving at high levels. I've done a lot and want to help you do all the things you want to do, too. If you're highly motivated and want someone who will hold you accountable with kindness, then I'm your guy. I'm well suited to help you reach your goals, whatever they may be.
Sessions are $600 for 55 min. 10 session package available for $5000.
BRAINSPOTTING
I'm also trained in brainspotting, which is similar to EMDR. It is not a talk therapy as it works on the subcortical brain, but works well in conjunction with talk therapy. To learn more about it, check this out. Because it is not a talk therapy, it is a coaching service available to anyone in the US for $125 for 45 min.
SUPERVISION
I am now a Supervisor In Training for those seeking certification as a sex therapist with AASECT! I'm working under the mentorship of Stephen Braveman, an accomplished expert whose dedication to sex therapy and education spans over 3 decades. My one-on-one supervision services are offered at a rate of $180/hr, ensuring personalized support and focused guidance for clinicians looking to sharpen their professional skills, especially as they pertain to sexually victimized men, male sexual dysfunction (delayed ejaculation, erectile dysfunction), or general issues of men's sexual wellness. I am also able to provide supervision for those who want support working with LGBTQ clients. While I do not offer group supervision at this time, I remain committed to providing a nurturing environment that supports growth, confidence, and ethical practice. Use the contact form below to reach out and schedule a free 30 min consultation with me. You can learn more about Stephen Braveman and his impactful work with trans clients and sexually victimized men here.


research
While my research is in the context of sexual violence, it's really a critique of masculinity and how it keeps men stuck - like the masculine pressure to appear unaffected and not need help. These expectations compound suffering and make men feel help is inaccessible and my work challenges that since I believe everyone who has been harmed deserves support. Men need to overcome their conditioning and seek out help but we have a responsibility to make it feel safe for them to seek it out (ie, not shame them for help-seeking or for being raped). Our culture frames “manhood” and “victimhood” as incompatible but the reality is that even cis men aren’t safe under patriarchy.